Focus on the Good

Last week started off really badly. I got a stomach virus, and was mostly awake only to heave what little was in my stomach. I had a splitting headache and felt really crappy. Then my laptop died, and I found out the hard drive was fried. Unfortunately I hadn’t backed up for a month, so I lost all of my recent work including two blog posts. I had struggled with writing one of them and finally got it to a point that I was thrilled with it and ready to post. Poof! Gone. Then when I left the Apple Store, shoulders hunched, I found one of my tires was almost flat. So I had an hour to stew in my self-flagellation soup, frustration and nausea. Good times. 

Breathe in. Breathe out.

Perfectly timed, I picked up a book that morning by Anne Lamott titled, “Help, Thanks, Wow.” In this book she talks about these three prayers of “asking for assistance, appreciating the good we witness and feeling awe at the world.” She explains part of the process as “gratitude begins in our hearts and then dovetails into behavior. It almost always makes you willing to be of service, which is where the joy resides.” I couldn’t agree more. My service in volunteering, particularly over the last six months of my “mid-life awakening” have been so rewarding and have definitely changed my life.

So, I decided to take a step back from my current situation to see the positives. Had I not noticed the low tire, I could have had a flat at an inconvenient place and not one mile from a tire store. Ok, there’s something. The laptop is salvageable and will require a new hard drive at a cost of around $175. Ok, it could have been worse. I started to feel better, and thankfully had the time to recuperate and feel better without the stress of keeping up with a job. And while it stinks that I lost the two blog posts, this certainly gave me new material to work on. And who knows? Maybe I’ll rewrite the other two and they will be even better than before.

That’s more like it!


There’s always different ways of looking at situations. It’s hard when we’re in the middle of the “ick” to take that step back to see the positive, but that’s especially when we need to.

 Help. Thanks. Wow.

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