Breaking Up with my Past

Ever find yourself saying any of the following:

“I have to, because I said I would..”

“I blame my mother…”

“That is how I was raised.”

This last one is my personal favorite and I recently caught myself using it. Now, I moved out when I was sixteen years old, so I haven’t lived with my parents for twenty-five years. So.. really? How does anything that happened that long ago dictate my decisions now? I caught myself saying it and laughed out loud.


When I was in my mid-thirties I realized that I couldn’t blame my parents anymore for things in my life that I wasn’t happy with. I had been living on my own at that point for longer than I had lived with them. Doing so seems kind of ridiculous.

I understand we’re imprinted in our formative years, but at some point, we have to recognize that we are an adult and make our own decisions. So, if there’s something I don’t like, I alone have the power to change it.

How empowering!

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