02-20-12 © almagami
Integrity is a quality that I value greatly. It’s important to me, and something I consider frequently when making decisions. Especially choices regarding where I will spend my time. If I say I’m going to do something, then it’s important that I am true to my word and do what I commit to doing. It’s equally important to me that others behave in the same manner.
According to dictionary.com, the definition of integrity is “adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.”
Here’s my quandary: what about integrity to myself?
A typical example of this issue is in my work. I want to do a good job and to be helpful to other people, however, I often end up putting myself in a position where I lose my work/life balance as a result. Periodically I re-establish my boundaries, but then feel the constant struggle of not doing the work that should be shared by others instead of just jumping in to take care of things.
As I continue struggling with this situation, it occurs to me that it’s really an issue of maintaining the same levels of integrity to myself that I do for others. If I say that I’m not going to do something, then I need to stand by that decision instead of feeling obligated to do it. Just because I did do something at one point, even though it wasn’t really my obligation to, doesn’t mean I’m required to continue doing it.
I find this so difficult to do.
Today I delegated several things to people on my team because anyone can do the work, not just me. I waited to see if anyone would take ownership, but everyone is so used to my jumping in to do it, that they wait and assume I will take care of it. Instead of doing that, I decided to assign the work elsewhere.