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Steamy Summer Reminders

I have a pretty good life. Sure, there are things I’ll change, but overall, I’m very lucky.

On Saturday night, I went to my car after an enjoyable dinner with a friend to find several issues with my car, indicating a possible electrical issue.

The air condition didn’t work.

I live in Phoenix.

I call Phoenix HELL this time of year, for obvious reasons. It’s August, one of the hottest months of the year, and temperatures are over 110 degrees during the day, cooling to balmy 90s in the evening.

I’m driving with the windows down, praying for a stream of green lights. And it happened Saturday night, which means I can’t even bring it into a mechanic to evaluate until Monday.

So on my drive home on Sunday, I got to thinking about my life and all of the wonderful things that I should be grateful for, instead of focusing on the fact that I might just melt into a puddle before making it home.

On Sunday I had a great time at the dog park with my pups, before it got too warm out. Then I went to support a friend for her yoga practicum, after which she will receive her certification to teach yoga. Yay! And in the afternoon, and the height of the heat, I went to visit Florence Crittenton, a therapeutic group home for teens that I have visited for over four years now, every Sunday. Two of the girls ran over to me to give me a welcoming hug. Anyone who has been hugged by a teen knows just how wonderful that feels.

I got to thinking about what’s important to me. I was feeling a little sad that I might need to get rid of my car that I’ve had for over ten years. It was the first car I ever bought that I really enjoyed, and I still love driving it. But even my cute little sports coupe, my “I’m thirty and single and going to buy the cute little sports car now before I am a cliché at fifty” is just a thing. I do have some attachment to it, but it’s something that can be replaced.

It’s when I think of losing something that I realize just how important it is. The most precious things in my world are my two nephews, Mason and Sawyer. I am so grateful that they are in my life.

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My Reminder

I manage chronic neck and back pain, and I’ve learned over the last few years to implement a regular self-care plan to try to keep it at bay. I woke up with a kink in my neck that would not go away and quickly arranged for a massage and chiropractic visit to ward it off. 

Only, this time it didn’t seem to help. Two days later, I woke with my neck completely seizing and in tremendous pain. It was the day before I started my new job. I rested much of the day and iced it while taking Advil, but nothing seemed to help.

My first day passed in such excruciating pain, worse than I’ve ever felt in my life. I had absolutely no mobility in my neck. Not a good start. 



I’ve found the concept of self-care to be a challenge. I’m quick to help care for others who need it, but don’t always offer myself the same courtesy. But this time I did! I recognized that I was having an issue, and did take some preventive measures to try to resolve it. 

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to recognize that the timing is quite suspect, and that this happened because I was about to go back to work in corporate, where I know in my heart I don’t want to be. Through the mists of pain, I kept thinking, “Why did this happen? What could I have done differently to avoid it? And most importantly, what can I learn from it?” I was really concerned as the last few jobs I’ve had have been pretty awful, so is this a harbinger of what’s to come?

I believe that accepting this job is the right decision for me right now, and I own that decision. However, I know that I need to pay special attention to taking care of myself to ensure that I don’t get sucked back up into “the ick,” as I call it: the politics, the drama. It’s difficult for me watching people behaving badly and not feeling weighed down by it.

Perhaps this was a warning to be sure I keep my head out of it, do the work I need to do and be done with it, making sure I don’t absorb all that goes on around me. Keep my eye on my goals, and stay at the job for what I want to get out of it without getting caught up.

Sometimes, a muscle spasm is just a muscle spasm.  Or sometimes, it could be a rather unpleasant reminder that I need to stay true to myself. Ok, I recognize the lesson. Now please make it go away.